Girls when in a same home shares everything. They share the
money, the work, the cooking, the housekeeping everything. When a girl goes to
kitchen everyone will join her, some help her, some just chat with her. This is
what girls actually need, not someone who will do all their jobs for them and
make them sit with a remote control. Just accompanying makes them happy.
I remember when I’m with my girls at chennai, actually the
trip was planned to stay together for a week because the closest friend of us
is going to get married a week after. We planned to stay together like a picnic
the time we can spend together as we cherished that most. So we stayed, the
room was so dirty with all hairs around, dusts, clothes shattered, scatteredly
arranged shelves, fan – the magnet of dusts. We planned to clean it, took
everything we need, we shared the works when one seems tired another relays the
work, sang songs, chattered jokes, laughed around and said we should know how
to do this all better before marriage. And finally one of our room mate after
coming from her job was astonished to see the washed, clean, arranged room.
That night we felt tired, achieved and fresh to sleep in a clean room. We lay
down nearby and placed legs on each of us and chattered for a long time
cracking jokes and all. We stayed happy.
Next day we went to kitchen singing songs while toasting
bread talking things we wished to know. At night I planned to cook sambar for
the very first time in my life, just for the sake of giving my friends what I
have cooked.
If it was a married life, I would be in the kitchen my
husband would be in the bedroom with laptop or in the hall with the remote
control. But it was a bachelor life and my girls came along helped me cut
vegetables, they were talking to me playing songs in mobiles, predicting the
end result of my cooking J, but none left the
kitchen till I finish cooking.
The company they gave was awesomely wondrous thing to feel.
It means a lot to a girl. They don’t want you to do everything just spend your
attention on her that's more than sufficient.
If she is cooking, cleaning and arranging everything and you
are at someother place thinking that you make space for her arrangements, she
feels lonely and the time depresses her even more not to work on that anymore.
She will eventually hate doing things she once loved to do and it will become
her duty and not her happiness. Her happiness lies on people she loves, and
especially they are you husbands. So she nags you particularly to spend time
with her.
If you are interested and think that sharing everything was
an act of love or togetherness, join with her cooking, cleaning, arranging
etc.. Dash against her while doing it together, she will love it.
If you are not interested to do so, just take your gadget
with you sit on the kitchen slab and do explore your gadget. Accompany her on and off the bed. She will be happy with your presence.
Girls same for you, accompany him and enjoy in what
interests him like footballs, crickets and leave him free when he wants private
time with his friends (not proposed for drinking smoking or something ;P).
